Monday, February 9, 2009

Guy Love

One of the members of my Friendly Friday Fan Club recently posted about something called “The Friend Crush.” I’d like to post the male perspective of The Friend Crush, but of course guys don’t crush. Therefore this will be titled “Guy Love,” or “The Awkward Case of the not so subtle Bromance.”

It is true. It happens. We have all had friends that have made impressions. I have always found imitation to be the sincerest form of flattery (this post for example). It is through the imitation of these friends that I found myself drawing closer and creating a bond much stronger than any average friendship.

Below is a list of my flattering actions: (at least I would find them flattering)

  1. I started road biking.
  2. I ran a series of 5k’s in the Greater Tri-Cities TN/VA area.
  3. I started dancing.
  4. I rented a cello for a year.
  5. I shopped at any number of stores.
  6. I became addicted to Smallville.
  7. I started yoga.
  8. I purchased a particular brand of shoes.
  9. I used those shoes to train with a friend.
  10. I’m seriously considering a tattoo.
  11. I started wearing bow ties on a regular basis.
  12. I started blogging.
  13. I joined certain art communities.
  14. I became an advocate.

I’m sure there are more . . .

I’ll let Bambi and Chocolate Bear take it from here. Enjoy.







6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Ah, the things we do in the name of "Bromance!"

sribbler said...

that's true.. one can learn many things from their friends... most part of development of socialization of one human happens through friends only .. it is a undeniable fact.. but it has some negatives also..

Anonymous said...

After watching the "Scrubs" clip, I get it.

But - let's assume these guys are straight (I know that's the premise). This means there would presumably be a "sex barrier", and therefore, a relationship barrier of sorts. As a matter of fact, the boundaries of their relationship would be pre-set.

For argument's sake, let's assume they were gay. What separates "Guy Love" from "Guys in Love"? Is there a difference?

For argument's sake, let's change one of them to a chick, and they're both straight. What separates "Guy/Girl Love" from "Guy and Girl in Love"?

Is there a core difference between the circumstances in the two "For argument's sake" situations above? In each, the participants are in a "friendship" with someone of the gender to which they are normally attracted.

Is physical intimacy the clincher in these situations? And can one have a "Whatever Love" relationship with a gender to which one is normally inclined to be physically attracted, without it becoming "Whatever in Love"? What's the diff?

Anonymous said...

I can't say I entirely agree with the [above] comment.

The entire premise of this clip is about the lack of barriers that the two guys (gay, straight, whatever...inconsequential) have. The whole point of their guy love is that because of their particularly special bond, they don't have the typical barriers between same-sex friends that often naturally occur. The point of their song is to express that because these barriers don't exist for them, they have the ability to share in their "bromance."
They are reveling in the fact that there is no "relationship barrier."

Physical intimacy has nothing to do with it.

Andrew said...
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Andrew said...

Well stated, anonymous II.